Settling?? Nah...I'll Be Late for That!

I was talking to a friend this morning who was giving me not so good news about her relationship. She went on to say that her boyfriend's actions have always show her the opposite of what his words said. She said she wanted to tell him that she was done but she didn't feel strong enough to do so. She also said that this might be the best she could get and she should just "settle" for him. I started to encourage her.

When my friend used the word "settling," I was shocked. My friend is a business owner, a wonderful mother, and all around one of the most giving people I know. When you expect the best for your children, your job, your education, why do some women settle in their personal and romantic lives? I've been there (See my previous post). Thankfully, I'm smarter, wiser and work to stay connected with God. So, here's three things I told her...it's a good reminder for myself and will hopefully help someone else too.

1. Every relationship is a decision. You choose to enter a relationship, to stay, to leave, to be happy or to wallow in unhappiness. You know how you want to be treated and how you should be treated. Don't lower your standards. Settling???!!! Nah, I'll be late for that!

2. There is nothing to fear but fear itself. Many times, we don't see a way out. Remember, faith and fear have this in common: they both require the fear of the unknown. If what you're doing is not getting good results, try something new! Then--have faith that you'll get the results you want!

3. You're not alone. This chapter in your story is not one that someone before you has lived. Nor, is it a chapter someone after you will live. Because someone lived with your pain, there's always someone who lived through your pain. There's always a blessing on the other side. Be courageous enough to see what happens when you cross the line.

Today's reflection: Confident!